my approach

You feel guilty about what your heart is telling you to do.

And deep down, you’re worried that you’re:

  • creating a problem by nursing or rocking your baby to sleep
  • letting your baby down if you don’t sleep train them
  • creating a clingy child
  • too weak or soft and don’t have what it takes to give them the “gift of sleep”
  • the only one with a child not sleeping through the night
  • failing as a mom
  • never going to sleep again

Having your needs met shouldn’t come at the expense of meeting your baby’s needs. The two shouldn’t be mutually exclusive! And more sleep doesn’t have to mean more tears.

With my approach, I look at what is biologically normal for babies, throw in some science to back it up, mix in your family’s needs, and come up with ways to get you and your baby more rest that works for everyone. There is no set program for you to follow – every baby and situation is different, and I will never suggest that you need to let your baby cry (alone or otherwise).

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With my approach, I don't try to change your baby.

Trying to change someone else is impossible. Instead, we’ll figure out ways to meet your baby’s current needs in a way that works for you too.

This could mean:

  • Talking about what’s normal for baby sleep and development
  • Re-aligning your expectations
  • Looking at sleep environment and routines (not rigid schedules, though!) 
  • Finding creative ways to get you more support
  • Uncovering the “why” behind needing your baby to sleep (is it to get more sleep yourself, to have some time alone, or something else entirely?)
  • Shifting your perspective and working on mindset

YOU'LL THIS IF YOU:

are committed to responding to your baby’s needs in a loving way

know that change can take time and are willing to take the long-view

think having a baby in the family does and should change your life

believe that we are social beings who need to be loved and understood

recognize that being a parent shouldn’t stop when the sun goes down

want your child to know they can depend on you

want to parent in a way that you can feel good about long-term

want to find the balance between your needs and your baby’s needs in a way that feels fair to everyone

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This definitely isn’t for you if you’re looking for fast and easy solutions, tips on how to sleep train, rigid schedules, or ways to maintain a single lifestyle.

FAQ

Maybe you’ve heard stories of someone hiring a “gentle” sleep consultant, only to be told once they’re working with them that “of course there’s going to be some crying involved”. Or maybe you’ve gone through that yourself and are wary of anyone claiming to be “gentle”.

With my approach, I don’t try to change your baby. As you already know, trying to change someone else is impossible. Instead, we’ll figure out ways to meet your baby’s current needs in a way that works for you too.

This could mean:

  • Talking about what’s normal for baby sleep and development
  • Re-aligning your expectations
  • Looking at sleep environment and routines (not rigid schedules, though!) 
  • Finding creative ways to get you more support
  • Shifting your perspective and working on mindset
  • Uncovering the “why” behind needing your baby to sleep (is it to get more sleep yourself, to have some time alone, or something else entirely?)

By tackling each of these areas, we’ll solving the ACTUAL root of your “sleep issue” without needing to “fix” your baby – and get you back to enjoying parenthood again.

Well… maybe. But probably not. Most children don’t reliably go all night without needing you until around 2-3 years of age unless there’s been some form of behavioural modification that’s taken place, usually in the form of sleep training. This may sound like a long time to wait, especially in the exhausting early years, but it’s just a blip on the lifetime you’ll have together. 

While I can’t guarantee that your baby will sleep through the night, there are things that we can identify and work on together that might nudge them in that direction.

This really depends on what we’re working on together. Many of the things we’ll discuss can be implemented immediately, and others will take some time to see a difference. You’ll most likely feel relief right away when you realize that your baby isn’t broken, when you experience a shift in your expectations or perspective, or small tweaks are made to a sleeping arrangement.

Positive impact from changes to a routine (like getting used to a different caregiver, for example) can take weeks or months of getting used to. But no matter how fast or how much time some changes may take, they should never result in you feeling like you’re pushing your baby to do something they aren’t ready for or that doesn’t sit well with you.

While I can’t promise you any specific results, it’s important to me that you feel good about hiring me. That’s why I always book a 15-minute call with you before we start and –  if I don’t think I can help you, I’ll be up-front about that too.

Once you’ve chosen a package and services paid for, my fees are non-refundable.

That being said, after working together you’re likely to feel way better about your parenting approach with sleep, know that what you’re doing IS the best thing for your family, and actually enjoy being a parent again. 

Some welcome side-effect from all of this peace of mind often includes:

  • Less anxiety (so you enjoy being with your baby instead of worrying and questioning yourself all the time) 
  • More time (because you’re not constantly googling or trying to miserably keep track of naps and wake-ups anymore)
  • More rest for you (because you’re able to relax easier and find sleep quicker, and have adjusted your priorities to maximise your sleep)
  • And feeling more balanced overall!

READY TO WORK WITH ME?

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